I wrote an update on my facebook page the other day that gathered a bit of feedback. I was really just musing on my thoughts, but those thoughts seem to have struck a bit of a cord with some people. So I thought, let’s delve a little deeper into it, shall we?
Here’s what I wrote:
I’ve been thinking about WHY people choose to become healthier, or at least, begin to eat better.
Usually it’s about aesthetics – how you look. “I want to be skinnier. I want to lose weight. I want to look good on my wedding day.”
But what if it wasn’t about looks? What if it was about SELF-LOVE?
What if eating healthier was about showing your body – and yourself – how much you love and appreciate everything it does for you?
Do you think the outcome would be different?
Let me explain.
I’ve noticed that pretty much everyone, in some way or another, wants to lose weight. By everyone, I mostly mean women. And some men, but mostly women. We’re not happy with the way we look, we hate our thighs, we want to look like the models in the magazines, we want a flat stomach and a perky butt and we want to look good.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look good, by the way.
But what I’ve also noticed is that this wanting to look good is the driving force behind every diet and every fitness fad and, eventually, every depressive binge on junk food when said diet or fitness fad doesn’t work. And this isn’t so good.
It comes down to intentions and motive. Because wanting to look good, in my opinion, is an impossible desire to fill.
For one thing, what “looks good” is different from one person to the next – there’s no standard on this. What I think looks good might be the complete opposite of what you think looks good. And for another thing, how do you know when you get there? How do you know when you’ve reached your goal?
When it’s purely aesthetic, the goal post changes all the time, there’s no finish line. You might get your perky butt but then you decide you need to work on your thighs. You might get great legs then you decide you hate your stomach! You might never, ever be satisfied.
It’s impossible to see your perfection when all you’re looking for is your flaws.
So I believe that the intention needs to be something a little deeper than just the way you look. It needs to come from way down, past the skin, right down into the depths of your heart.
Why not change your perspective a little? Instead of looking at yourself from a reflection, why not look at yourself from the inside?
If you start eating healthily, the things that begin to happen will be far, far greater than just shedding a couple of kilos. You’ll be giving your body all the nourishment that it needs to function properly. All your body systems will be working their absolute best and improving your health constantly! Detoxing, flushing, rebuilding. You’ll feel energised and full of life. Your mood will be lifted – you’ll feel happier!
Because that’s what eating healthily does to you.
The whole weight loss thing is a side effect of this. When your body is functioning properly, it’s able to shed excess energy (which is all your excess weight really is). When there’s a good balance of everything you need, then your body will sit quite comfortably at your natural weight because it knows it’s getting everything it needs – it has no reason to hold on to excess anymore.
So if you’re embarking on a new weight loss regime, how about renaming it your new self love regime. Tell yourself “I am eating healthily so that my body can be at its absolute best all the time! I’m eating healthily because I want to nourish myself from the inside out. I’m eating healthily because I want to be happy and I’m going to nurture that happiness through my body.”
Then watch how your journey changes.
The body will only do what your mind tells it. And if your mind is only ever sending it negative thoughts (like how ugly it is) then it’s never going to respond the way you want it to. When’s the last time you told someone they looked disgusting, and that person happily did whatever you asked of them? I’m betting on never!
But if you start telling your body how wonderful it is, then you immediately start sending love and care in that direction. When you’re nice and complimentary to people, they will usually happily and willingly go along with whatever you ask them, right? Same with your body. And when you’re sending love and care to your body, then it will start to heal itself.
Treat your body the way you’d treat your best friend. With loving kindness, care and nurturing. And I will guarantee that things will begin to change for the better.
The destination is no longer “skinny”. The destination – and the journey – becomes “healthy”. And that will last a lifetime.
With love and eating healthily,